What's going on with the "Infertility Diaries"

I have been reading Redbook's online blogs for a few years starting with the 'Diary of V'. I don't care for the magazine but then again I don't care for many US magazines. I like the blog because it is realtime and they have different topics and an interesting mix of writers. I started reading the 'Infertility Diaries' earlier this year when it started to become obvious that I wasn't going to be pregnant in that 6 month window where you are still blissfully ignorant of everything else. I lurked for the longest time because I didn't even understand the treatments that many of the writers were going through. It was sad to read but then it was also sometimes comforting to know that I wasn't the only one confused by this infertility thing. It got me into reading other blogs and then books and by the time we sat down with the RE I had a good list of questions to ask, etc.

Anyhow, the 'Infertility Diaries' blog has graduates - and I love when that happens. I admit, when they first announce that the treatment has been a success I feel the way that I feel when a RL friend says that they are pg - that combination of panic, sadness and anger that months of BPNs develops in the pit of your stomach. But then I feel good - another person has gotten through the obstacle that no one seems to understand unless they've been through it. I often follow their separate pregnancy blogs and parenting blogs afterwards. Which is why I feel so bad for the current blogger. The comments to her pregnancy posts have been heated and are now pretty insulting. The general discussion appears two-fold a) whether she should be blogging since she is now pg (traditionally they blog through the first tri) and b) whether the blogger's pg posts are insensitive to those who are dealing with infertility. I think a lot has been taken out of context - the wonders of writing, I guess. Still, many great points have been made in those comments that make me ponder how inferfility begats bitterness. Yes, I find that I feel bitter more often than I used to when we were not TTC. Yes, my "why" questions over the last few months often border on angry. I don't want infertility to take over my life.... but sometimes I think it already has and I hate that feeling!

But why don't I feel anger towards this particular bogger. Maybe it is because I know that the infertility journey does not do a favor for anyone, no matter how long you have been going through it. I felt like About 6 months into this process I did not want friends who were keeping up with my cycle via fertility friend to tell me sorry when AF started. By the time of the first RE visit I stopped charting except for recording when AF began. I stopped ovulation tests once DH was put on the clomid and we were told to come back in December. Each phase was awful - all of it was awful. I would guess that each BFN was awful for the blogger as well. And I don't think I would like to read the blog if a first tri pg blogger was freaking out about m/c during every post. I think this is a tough grey area that I hope Redbook is able to sort out soon. I truly am finding the negative comments offputting.